Every parent thinks he/she is the best and they are. But no matter how much effort you put in disciplining your child, there is yet a chance of your child not listening to you or maybe you might feel everything you do is in vain. There are many ways of disciplining a child. We may even resort to verbal abuse, spanking or even just saying bad words to them unintentionally when we are frustrated or angry with our own problems. Instead of provoking loving words from children, we land up evoking and dropping rude cruel words to them. From tears rolling down their cheeks to becoming a rebel, later on, you may be just destroying a beautiful relationship you had access to and at times not impossible to repair but irreversible.
We all love our children and hence We should STOP using/saying these words to them.
- You are a bad girl/boy : When we reprimand them, we are not distinguishing them as an individual to a notorious behaviour. The choice of your language and tone can make a lot of difference and can lead to a lot of misunderstanding.
2. You are stupid : This is a very common sentence that we tend to use in our daily conversations with most children and adults. Though it sounds insulting, it portrays that you are comparing or being judgemental.
3. I am done with you : How would you feel if someone told you this? A child is so small and can get hurt so quickly. Instead of reassurance, if he has to hear these words, he would unknowingly not understand it correctly and may go into an emotional breakdown. Empathise with the child.
4. Be like your sibling : Every sibling has an argument here and then. But sibling rivalry can be damaging. It may lead to jealousy and could develop hatred between them. Try not to compare siblings at all and accept the uniqueness of each child separately.
5. You can never do this : By saying this, not only are we lowering their self-confidence but even harming their potential or the abilities they have to do something. Let them try and explore. It is okay if it doesn’t work out the way you want it to be. They can always have room to improve.
6. It is sick to have a kid l like you : If at all a child develops a problem, maybe we can take an insight to our own self. Children are a reflection of their parents. They see, observe and learn from them.
Let us protect our child’s innocence and early years of development. If we can be mindful of what we say, we can prevent a lot of damage later on. We need to teach them coping skills and to have the intellectual capacity of their age to understand a particular situation or any problem.
14-1-2022