In attempt to giving our children “what we did not have”, we often forget to give them “what we did have”.
It is not the number of hours we parents spend with our children. It is the quality time that we spend, be it just ten minutes. A child has the capability to understand, remember and recollect what has been invested in their minds since infanthood. Most parents want their kids to be successful and capable and so we spend time teaching them “attitudes”. Well, this is surely short term gain. We burnout their tiny brains with information they are not ready to grasp. We seek our dreams in them since as we could not accomplish them in our past. Are they interested? We instil a sense of fear, asking them to score A grades and win all the competitions at school. As a result, we get rebellious kids when they grow up. What really happens when they face real competition in life?
Instead, just be happy around them and they will instantly learn how to be happy. They learn through observing what we do. Teach them to be happy rather than scoring 100 out of 100. Positive emotions will help them relieve stress and anxiety and perform better. They will learn to progress even if they don’t win. Celebrate each success with them and embrace each failure. Teach them life coping skills. Believe and Trust in them.
Tell the kiddos ” Just have fun by doing nothing at all “.