Professionally, I come across many adults and children and get to know them in some way or the other and at times that also makes me wonder what life is all about and the strengths we are blessed with despite the circumstances around us. Recently I had a chance to visit a school for “specially abled” children. I was amazed to see the talents they possessed, the way they took life and the positive smile they kept flashing all the time. I wasn’t sure of how to react or respond when I was called upon to deliver a small speech.
In a similar context, we might come across various people and there are some who we like instantly, dislike some, have a crush on some, some to have fun with, a few who are funny, a few who are serious, hate a few, get infatuated, fall in love, marry the one, dump a few, hurt a handful of them, begin or end relationships, get used to, etc, etc, etc. Not all are meant to stay and not all will be forever. There are joyful and dark days. Most of the times, we feel hurt by people we like. At times, we might have behaved wise and stupid as well. I met a few people over coffee and they were discussing about life and people. They said : – There are some whom we wish stayed with us forever. Well, we seem to expect permanence in a world that is temporary. No, that doesn’t mean we are clingy to them. I wondered as I continued listening to them. It is just that we hold a fear of losing people who we consider as “nice” or “good” to us. Maybe there is something in them, an aura, a vibe that keeps us happy. Oh well, this so called aura is a coloured emanation that each of us hold and manifests the energy that we possess. But what happens when one fine day, people decide to leave you or circumstances leave no choice but to end things that once were cool? Are we so matured to be able to accept it or do we yet fear losing them either because of our thoughts, feelings or ego? What’s common amongst all of this is “Memories”. It is something that no one can rob you of. Memories are the “ONLY” thing that we all hold so close to us, be it for a family, friends, children, your own self and others. I met a friend a couple of days back, who is divorced. Life is uncertain. She mentioned, sometimes what if “one” just cant let go? what if memories haunt you for a lifetime”? So the next question popped up – “Does time really heal”? This is what we have heard and read. People live in guilt or regret all their lives. Scary to the thought of just existing and not living. Lets be positive! Difficult? Why? Don’t we love our self or believe in our self? No one except you knows yourself better.
So, coming to the crux of this article. Why is it so damn difficult to let go? The ugly truth is that there is a thrill of holding on to people, even though you know deep down , they won’t change their mind, no matter what you do. Maybe its all destined! No one has the answer to it.
A quote says it all.
“All suffering is caused either by an attachment to a positive outcome or an avoidance of a negative one. “ — Jafree Oswald
Well, people will advise you that “You must be willing” to do so. Is it so easy? In that case, why don’t we have the willingness to “Forgive” ?
There is a conflict or a misunderstanding that we have with our own emotions and ego, which is parallel to each other. They both go hand in hand.
Nevertheless, Life goes on. Time waits for no one.
An interesting topic and lots can be written on this. Will end it here for now. 🙂 Be happy…. 🙂