Authenticity for Approval in young boys and girls or even adults can be strongly associated with parenting style. More than often, we mask ourselves in fear of being judged. People fear to show up their true authentic self. To be able to please another and fit in their circle is mostly concerned about. Shame, Regret, Guilt are some of the factors responsible for this fear of judgement. There are times or circumstances where we get desperate to be able to accept others and ourselves irrespective of whether we realize that we need to be happy from within. We are blinded by the glam and power of money. The need for acceptance and approval reaches a point where we fear losing people. There arises a need for reality check. Are we trading with our emotions? And for what purpose?
When we talk about social acceptance, it has become an integral part of todays young and old. I often ponder that when one does not have that feeling for him/herself, how can he/she share or give someone else? For example, when I grow hatred inside me, how is it possible to give love? At the least I might fake it up if I must. Genuineness is replaced by fake emotions. Anxiety, Anger, Grief, Resentment, Blame, etc are side effects of running into such glim glam situations.
Parents find it hard to tame their teens. The level of understanding must fill up the gap. It all begins with your own upbringing style and the adaptations you make with your children. Today is an era of openness and exposure. One cannot really keep their kids tied up with their string of nagging and domination. Along with parenting responsibilities comes Caution. Awareness. Friendliness. They are living life at the speed of light. They are unstoppable.
Instead of following the herd blindly, let us empower them to use their strength and thoughts in a channelized manner. Let them authenticate themselves with themselves and not others.
Be better than what you were yesterday has to be the soulful nib. inculcate this rather than comparing and pushing yourself in the rut.
Be unique. Be special.
21.10.20